When it comes to raising a good, respectful man, there are certain things a son needs from his mother. They say a child is eternally bound to the mother, and this is true especially when it comes to sons and their Moms! Popular culture, including Ekta Kapoor’s soaps, echoes this sentiment of sons being particularly attached to their Moms. The reverse is also true; mothers are also known to be very fond of their sons. While that sounds cute and adorable, it can prove unhealthy in excess. But by understanding these needs, a mother can nurture her son to become a remarkable individual.
10 Things a Son needs from his Mother
1. Love purely, and freely
One of the most important things a son needs from his mother is unconditional love. From the tender years as a baby, where cuddles and attention are crucial, to the growing stages of his life, a son requires genuine affection and emotional support. By expressing love openly and unconditionally, a mother teaches her son the importance of love and helps him understand that men, too, need to communicate their emotions.
2. Respect yourself
As a mother, it’s crucial to love and respect yourself, for that is one of the vital things a son needs from his mother. You are a queen in your child’s eyes, and according to Freud, even more! Show your son the importance of self-respect by not allowing anyone, including yourself, to talk down to you. By valuing yourself, you set a powerful example for your son, teaching him to value and respect women. This foundation paves the way for healthy relationships with his future spouse, embodying the key things a son needs from his mother.
3. Respect his father
A lot of what we are is shaped in our childhood, and our parent’s relationship often acts as a blueprint for the way we will behave in our adult lives. The role of the father in your son’s life is very important, and the respect and love that you show your husband will have a great influence on your son.
4. Have fun
Moms are known to be disciplinarians while Dads end up being the ‘fun parent’. Change this equation and make fun a routine part of your day! Don’t get so caught up in work and parenting, that you forget to enjoy these precious years. Put on music, dance, sing and laugh together. Your son won’t remember the toys, but he’ll cherish these memories.
5. Be his cheerleader
Everyone needs their own cheerleader, and who better for your son than his Mom! Whether it’s his show and tell project, his soccer game or even gully cricket, let him and the world know you’re his biggest fan. I mean we already are, so we might as well show it to the world!
6. Back off when required
I know, this can be really hard for Moms! It’s a thin line between love and complete obsession and you have to be careful not to overstep boundaries. There are going to be times when he won’t want you to be too involved; so mothers should have the wisdom to not take it personally and back off, which brings us to No.7.
7. Let him make mistakes
I genuinely believe that our job as mothers is to guide our children and raise them with the best resources we have, but after that, we need to let them figure it out for themselves. Some days they’ll shine, on others they’ll fall. Don’t berate them, chide them or be sarcastic. Just hold them and tell them you love them. Then figure out a way to kick ass together!
8. Teach him to respect and appreciate women
If you have healthy, open relationships with other women in your house, at work and in social circles, it helps your son communicate with women effectively as well. Teach him about real beauty and diversity, and he will soon learn to appreciate women for who they are, rather than superficial stuff.
9. Do stuff that he likes
The Play station may not be your best friend, but what’s the harm in giving it a go every now and then? Get involved in stuff he likes, whether it’s painting, or a sport. This is also an opportunity to relive your childhood and be a tomboy!
10. Pay attention to his problems
If you don’t care about his problems when he’s 3, why should he confide in you at 13? Why he can’t colour right is as important to him at 3 as why he can’t try smoking with his friends at 13. So if he learns to trust you in early life, chances of him confiding later seem good!
Motherhood is a myriad of emotions and experiences, but if we play our cards right it’ll all come together seamlessly! Atleast that’s my hope for all of us!